I had to go to that place to get to this one.

by Tara Fitness

I have not, for one minute, regretted walking away from weight loss coaching. 6 months ago, I regretted so many of the mistakes I made along the way. But, having thoroughly analysed what went wrong, I’ve realised:

“It’s been a ride. I guess I had to go to that place to get to this one”.

– Eminem.


For the first half of 2018, I felt overwhelmed, exhausted and unsuccessful. My buckets of self-esteem and self-belief had more holes than a championship golf tournament.

I was neglecting everything that mattered to me, selling myself the lie that I’d prioritise the ‘important stuff’ once my business was successful. Believing my own bullshit line that I was doing this for our future.

After 3 years of busting my gut to build a business, I realised I didn’t know who I was anymore.

By mid-2018, I realised I would:

→ Sit beside my partner every evening, so distracted by my phone, I’d fail to give her any quality time or attention at all;

→ Skip training or cooking a healthy meal because I always had more work to do;

→ Only read books I thought could help my business, and only see a movie or eat out when I was so exhausted I couldn’t begin to think about what to do for dinner;

→ Continually put off travel and even local exploration because we couldn’t afford it, or I was too caught up in my business to plan ahead, so we’d waste away the weekend trying to decide what to do; and

→ Forget about every one of my goals apart from building something that put money in the bank.

It had been a slow and steady decline so, for a while there, I couldn’t even see how badly I was screwing things up. Until it hit me like bus barreling down the freeway.

I closed my business because I realised I’d become THAT PERSON. The one who forgot why I started in the first place. I wanted to build a happier, healthier future for Charlotte and I,  yet I was single-handedly tearing that dream to pieces.

One of the biggest mistakes I made was trying to do everything in my business. Coaching clients, website design, blog writing, email marketing, systems setup, social media, client onboarding, research, finances … and plenty more. What’s worse, I didn’t know how to do most of it when I began. So not only was I doing all this work, I was learning on the fly (hence why I was working 70+ hours per week).

Since transitioning from fitness coaching into freelance writing, I’ve committed to outsourcing as much as I can. I simply don’t have time to stuff about trying to half-arse things other people can do a whole lot better than me these days.

Why don’t I have time anymore?

Because, I:

→ Put my phone down when I finish work and spend quality time talking with Charlotte instead;

→ Take at least one, preferably two days off each weekend to focus on living life;

→ Exercise consistently 4-5 days per week;

→ Cook a healthy, delicious dinner almost every evening;

→ Work a part-time job as a cycle courier (which, I’ve discovered, is a lot like urban mountain biking so I have a blast every time I go to work);

→ Go out for dinner, to the movies and explore the South-East of England because I make the time to plan our weekends in advance; and

→ Prioritise my one goal – to live a happier, healthier life with my beautiful girl.

If you’re busting your gut trying to do everything in your business…

Stop for a second, take a breather. Then ask yourself why you started your business in the first place. If your daily actions aren’t the kind that’ll take you closer to your goal, it’s time to readjust your priorities.

I’ve created a unique freelance writing service for people who want to build a business without neglecting their family, freedom, fitness and fun.

If you’d like to come home from a day at the beach with your family to find a bundle of emails, rolled, tied up with string and ready to attach to the feet of your carrier pigeons… tap here to find out how I can help you build your better life.

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